Whether it is a married relationship, a romance, or a living together every relationship is loving and caring and yet so fragile. There are always chances of relationships breaking up or getting damaged as no one is perfect in this world, at least when someone is in a relationship. People make mistakes, often unknowingly, which can lead to break-ups and problems. While it is true that people can learn from mistakes, it is equally true that more often than not we fail to do so..
It is always advisable that you stay consciously away from mistakes you made previously when you are in a relationship. However, there are times when some first time mistakes can lead to instant breakups. Being “sorry” will not help in regaining the trust and love of the other person. That is why when it comes to relationships, it is better to be safe than sorry. Given below is a list of a few common mistakes that you should stay away from to maintain a healthy and happy relationship:
Losing control of things: If you want to maintain a healthy and happy relationship for a long period of time, it is advisable that you stay in total control of yourself. Getting married to someone or being in a relationship does not give you the permission to express as you feel it…at least not always! Losing control of yourself means that you value your partner less or think him/her to be inferior. This is damaging for a relationship. Frequent losing control will irritate the partner and will lessen the intensity of romance between you two.
Lack of clear communication: Communication is the only way to know each other better and understand each other’s intensions. It also conveys the passion, love, and feeling that you hold for one another. Ill communication with the partner leads to destructive relationship, which can be really bad for you.
No overnight arguments: If you are angry, vent it out and finish it off before you go to bed at night. Do not continue the same topic till the next day. Extended arguments are often irritating and can cause a rift in the relationship. Many people consider arguments in a relationship to be a thing of status or dignity. However, this creates a feeling of distance from the partner.
Aversion to sex: Whether you are a married couple or are living together, sex is inevitable in a relationship. Do not consider that by agreeing to have sex you are favoring your partner. When a partner is denied sex, she/he might feel hurt and insecure. It is always better to solve issue with clear communication. Take a break and start afresh with satisfying sexual encounters. This would surely help you to get together once again.
Do not keep secrets: many people keep secrets from their partner. You should never ever do that in a relationship. You should be true to each other. If your partner comes to know about your secrets from some other source, it is really going to affect your relationship.