In order for a relationship to truly work, you will have to focus on yourself as much as you focus on your significant other. This is one of the main reasons why most relationships do not work, simply because people tend to forget about themselves and they lose control of what happens in their relationship. When a person just gets into a new relationship, all they will possibly think about is the person that they have fallen in love with.

This is where most people neglect self development, their health and sometimes even their jobs. In order to make a relationship truly work, make sure that you are making the person you are falling in love with a bonus to your life, not your everything. Here are a few tips to help you learn how to be in control of the relationship that you are in and at the same time still be able to keep your relationship fresh.

Stay In Shape Together To Stay Together

Too often a person will make someone their “everything” and once that person is gone, they feel like they are left with nothing. Though there is absolutely nothing wrong with giving the person your everything, but not at the cost of losing yourself. How often do you see a couple slowly but surely become unhealthy together? They are often telling each other “I love you no matter how you look.” Though is something very sweet to say, it should not be an excuse for you to eat all you can and forget about your health and well-being.

One of the best things for a couple to do is to be active together and to live a life where they are able to share experiences. If you two are starting to gain a few pounds, take the initiative to find the nearest gym for you two to join. If a gym does not fit into your budget, then you can set an exercise date where you both go out for a little run. There are literally hundreds of activities you two can do in order to stay healthy together.

Set A Time And Date For Friends

When a couple just starts to date, they will inevitably forget their friends and family as they are too consumed with their brand new love. This will often be the time where your friends and family will start to feel like you are drifting away and this will start to create problems for your other relationships in your lives. Your romantic relationship is not the only the relationship in your life that you have to focus on as you have friends and family members who also care for you.

You should always keep a set time or date for your friends and family so that you are able to balance the relationships in your life. Though it might seem “impossible” to separate from your special someone for a few hours, it is definitely going to help all your relationships out in a healthy way. Learn how to balance your relationships and your time and you will ultimately see all of your relationships blossom.

Now here’s a funny video that gives tips on how to be in control in relationships.


Keep A Separate Bank Account

Joint accounts shouldn’t be the first priority on your lists anyway, however if you are going down this path make sure that you also have a separate bank account. In here you can put your allocated spending money to for yourself, to spend on things that you like. Or don’t spend and keep for a rainy day. I would recommend to save some funds up here in case of an emergency. You never know what will happen and it is good to have your own stash if you ever need it.