How to Be in Control of the Relationship During an Argument
If you are currently in a relationship, you might feel like things sometimes get out of hand and you have no control over the relationship anymore. This happens too often and it seems like some men have a hard time learning how to be in control of the relationship. If you have the habit of [...]
If you are currently in a relationship, you might feel like things sometimes get out of hand and you have no control over the relationship anymore. This happens too often and it seems like some men have a hard time learning how to be in control of the relationship. If you have the habit of always saying yes to your wife or girlfriend’s commands, you will inevitably realize in the future that you are not happy.
Though there really is nothing wrong with doing things for her, the most important thing is a relationship that involves balance. When you and your significant other are going through problems, it is most likely because of an imbalance of control in the relationship.
In order for any relationship to work, communication must be the main focus. Too many times a couple will stay silent during an argument simply because they feel that they were right all along. This just might be the worst thing to do when you are in an argument because in order to solve any problem, you will have to communicate and open up about how you truly feel about the situation. This is usually very tough to do but you will have to lower down your pride and make the initiative to talk and open up. Being able to open up and start the communication process will be the first step to regaining control of the relationship.
Once you are able to make her talk and start communicating, this is where you have to understand her side. Realize that she would not be upset if you guys were agreeing on something. So you must accept that what she is about to say is against what you are saying but at the same time you must accept and understand her side. The current argument might be about something very useless and you do not want to ruin your relationship because of a lack of communication and understanding. Men and women are very different and sometimes people need to understand that there will be a lot of misunderstandings and only through communication can this problem be solved.
Communicating and understanding can be quite draining and you will need to learn how to stay patient and in the moment. An argument can often take hours maybe even days and you simply do not want it to ruin your day. How often do you see someone sad at work or school just because of an argument with their special someone. This happens too often and it is sad to see relationships end because of a lack of communication, understanding and patience in the relationship. Learn how to be patient and you will definitely be able to balance the control in the relationship.
Being in a healthy relationship does not mean one person has all the control. If you two are able to evenly balance everything in the relationship, you will be able to minimize the amount of arguments in the relationship.