How to Break Up With Someone You Love

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  1. Dan says:

    Love is very complicated. True love should be unconditional, you accept any negative with the positive. I’m in a 10 year relationship with David (67), recently found out that he is still seeing a younger man that he had a fling with 3 years ago. We are trying to work through things, at first I thought we could repair and move forward, but recently I’ve been seeing Dave in another light, He is drinking more, borderline alcoholic, Terry Clements (37) is an alcoholic himself, and unemployed, he found out in the beginning that if you get Dave drunk Dave will do anything for you. So Terry has not had to work, actually can’t find work due to his police record, he has weaved himself into Dave’s finances to where he wants for nothing, get Dave drunk or threatend Dave with suicide and Dave’s gives him money.

    It’s to a point where we are in therapy and Dave is afraid to close the door on Terry; Terry’s entire family keeps pushing on Dave to allow him to move in and for Dave to take care of him, they are tired of dealing with the alcoholic son/brother.

    For the first time in a year I spend time with Dave and his neighbors, which I found our are also drinking buddies of Terry. The entire Dave all they could talk about was Terry and what Terry was missing out on and that Terry is going to be very pissed that Dave and I planted the garden already.

    So I have given Dave a couple Dave’s with support of the therapist to close the door on Terry, shut him out, tell his family he is not longer going to accept responsiblilty for him, and if they can’t handle place him somewhere where he can get help. I have spoken with Dave within the last 24 hours, and both times he was under the influence of alcohol, and both times was engaged in conflict with Terry.

    So to all of you out there that have been lied to, cheated on, etc. the best thing you can do, and I finally did it, told Dave I was taking back control of my life, ending the game and if he was sincere about us he could call me after he closed Terry’s door. Hardest thing I’ve had to do in a long time, but afterwards I felt relieved and better towards myself. I may be alone, but now I am not caught up in a constant conflict/battle between the two them.

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