This is a guest post entitled “How to Break Up With Someone You Really Love” submitted by Mark from GayDatingSites.Net. Please read his details below.
It doesn’t matter if you’re the one executing the break up or if you’re the one on the receiving end—breaking up with someone you really love is never a walk in the park. Two people can love each other very much but sometimes relationships aren’t designed to work out. So when you are faced with the decision to end a toxic relationship but deeply love and care about the other person, it can be one of the most difficult things you will ever have to do.
Here’s how to break up with someone you love while avoiding more heartbreak than necessary:
Listen to your intuition. When your gut is telling you that something in your relationship doesn’t feel right, it’s a good idea to listen to that feeling. If you’ve been battling back and forth in your mind about whether or not to break up with someone, you’ve got a glaring red flag on your radar. People always say, “When you know, you know.” So if you don’t know and doubts about your relationship are clouding your mind, a breakup might be the best option for each person involved.
Don’t drag it out. When the decision is made to break up with someone you love, most likely it wasn’t an easy one at which to arrive. Once you know that the person you are with isn’t the one you are meant to be with for the rest of all time, there is no point in dragging it out any further. Doing so will not only be unfair to them…but it will also be unfair to you too. Ask yourself for the final time if the consequences of your choice are really what you want and make sure that you are absolutely committed to your decision before discussing it with your partner.
Pick an appropriate time and place. If the two of you are out at a bar with friends, it is probably not the best time or the proper place to end a relationship with the person you care about. Select a time when you both have an ample amount of it to sit down and talk for a while. Make sure that you are alone in a comfortable environment that is devoid of distractions.
Honesty is the best policy. If you really love someone, confessing “It’s not you, it’s me” probably isn’t the best route to take. Lying about your feelings will only confuse and complicate the matter that much more. To show that you respect the person with whom you are breaking up, it’s best to deliver them the same honesty that you would like in return. This can be very difficult so just remember to sensitively communicate your honesty as you deliver what you believe was the demise of your relationship. Be calm and clear with your reasons while not pointing the blame at them or yourself.
Give it time and forgive. With a break up it always takes time for the loving feelings you had for someone to pass; but you will get to a point when they eventually do. No matter what led to the end of your relationship, if you love the person you broke up with, it should be easy to forgive each other. This may take a while but holding onto to any hurt, anger or resentment will only make the process of moving on much longer.
Though you are likely to experience hurt through the break up and at times you may even be lonely, wishing that it had never happened…despite the loving feelings you may have for your ex remember to think of the reasons why your relationship failed. Rest assured knowing that you have the strength to move on and find the person out there who is meant for you.
About the Author:
Mark Weikel, is a writer who enjoys covering topics about dating and relationships. In addition to writing, Mark also owns the website, Best Gay Dating Sites, where he offers tips for safe online dating in the gay community.