If you’re looking for answers on how you can save your marriage after an affair, this article might help. The very first thing that you must do is take some time and evaluate if the marriage is still worth saving because if not, you might end up making the same mistakes all over again. You may ask yourself this question, “Why I end up having an affair with someone else?”
Once you have the courage and finally know all the reasons why you committed such horrible mistake, just get down to the root of the problem and apologize honestly and sincerely. If for instance you knew that your partner does not love you anymore, make sure if that’s really the case. I guess you’ve done this before and doing it now is far better than not doing it at all.
Never pretend that you didn’t commit the cheating act. It will just makes matters worse and it’s the biggest issue that you will have to face with your partner if you really want to make the marriage work for the second time around. Why don’t you sit down and talk about it? Or with a help of a marriage counselor, try to talk the issues and find out the real problems why you had an affair.
Going through the process will never be easy and it will be very painful for both sides however we must accept that there are certain things we don’t like on someone who we love the most. It is hard to face the reality and this can be the real problem why everything else is falling apart.
Remember the things when both of you first met? Can you still remember the excitement you both had with one another? If this is what you’re looking for, it can still be there. You just have to create the spark for the flame to grow once again.
At this point, you must accept everything that happened. What’s done is done and you can’t do anything about it to change what you’ve done. What you can do is try to make up for all those mistakes you’ve made to your partner. They may in a state of too much pain at the moment, so make sure that you make them feel that you’re still there for them.
Talking your problems to a reliable therapist or a pastor that you know may help you give some tips on what you can do to make things right again. Give your partner some space for them to think and figure things out on their own. Do not force them to do things which they are not ready to do or be too demanding on them in any possible way. Like I said, this will just make matters worse than fixing them instead.
Even if things become worse than what you expected, always agree to them on what they say or what they complain about. They may blame all their problems on you, but still apologize. They may get irritated so easily when you’re at the bathroom for so long, just say sorry for it.
As time goes on, things will settle down and get better as you live your life with your spouse. It will take time for sure but be patient with her. After all, you’re the one who had an affair and make things right this time.