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Menage a Trois To Save Your Relationship

Breakup Advice

That ecstatic moment when you enter into a relationship with the one you truly care for, it is destined to become a violent emotional cyclone. When it becomes official and you slap a title on your love and you’re in the honeymoon stages, deep in the throws of passion; This is the calm before the storm. What they don’t say is that in the eye of the storm is where you’ll find your bliss.

This is not to say that the relationship turmoil that you go through is a great thing, nor do I intend to undermine the pain that comes with it.  I do want to emphasize that to a certain degree, the arguments and clashing that occurs is healthy. For two reasons. First, no two humans are so compatible that they will have nothing to fight about. Secondly, no one fights for something they don’t care about. No one wants to go through the tumultuous ricochet of fighting for something that isn’t deeply valuable to them.  The outcome is that if you are fighting, it’s because you both want to get past it and stay together, not end the relationship.

Ah, there is the rub: You have broken up, or separated. Or it appears to be heading in that direction. Which brings on a complicated yet vital third aspect of fighting. The break-up. I will say time and again, that when your loved one breaks up with you, it is not out of a dire need to terminate the relationship irreversibly. It is a cry for change, not a suicide attempt.

Once you recognize this, and you commit to the reality of regaining the love that you’ve lost, there is one crucial step you should take immediately. The menage a trois. The truth is that during all this stress inducing time you have devoted your astute attention to one person and one person only. The object of your affections, clearly. You can’t take your mind off her because of the gripping fear that you will lose her completely. You reminisce about the sweeter times, you contemplate scenarios of what you wish you’d said, you concoct plans of rekindling your ring of fire, you make yourself sick thinking there may be someone else.

You must bring a third party into your frame of mind. You. Disappointing? I didn’t mean to mislead you. However, I can’t stress enough the importance of scheduling in some quality ‘Me Time’  right now. The whole shebang: Body, Mind, Soul, Financial, Social. Think of it as a spa for your entire well-being.

The attraction of one person to another can be attributed to every aspect of them. So rather than chasing down the one you desire with a plea for their return in hand, you must perform a tune-up on yourself and become what attracts her like a moth to your flame. Not by straying from your genuine self, but by striving for success in areas of your life that you’ve left on the back burner and which may very well have led to your demise.

This can mean taking better care of the temple that is your body, by eating well and reacquainting yourself with your own sweat. It can mean getting your finances in order. It may entail meditation or spiritual enlightenment. It might include signing up for a workshop or confidence building exercises. It definitely means spending time with your friends and family.

You are asking her to enter back into a relationship with you. You had best make sure you’re someone worthy of her affection.When you’ve reached a point where you can honestly say that you are satisfied spending time you-on-you, then you can begin to think about asking her to join you in a magnificent menage a trois.

Then you can take the next step and move towards having her back in your arms: Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back Like A Magnet.