When it comes to relationship, I always tell my friends to be wiser and be selective with their chosen partners. I always reason out to them that in order for a relationship to work successfully, both partners must work on it and it just takes one to ruin everything. If they’re with someone that isn’t mature enough to work on problems that occur, then for sure they’re in need of some relationship rescue.
While everything is not yet late to make a relationship work successfully, the longer time that you will wait then the more work it will require. Make sure you stop problems within their tracks right before they turn into behavioral patterns which are a lot harder to solve along the way.
Now, you may be asking, how can I save my relationship if things are out of control? The very first thing that you can do in this situation is to assess and take a closer look on the relationship which is very hard to do. Do you believe that your partner cares about the relationship like you do? If the answer is no, then it’s time to break up and move on.
It’s nearly impossible to fix a relationship if you’re the only one who’s working everything out. It may be painful at first but in the long run you’ll realize that it’s worth doing.
If in case you find out that both parties are making the effort to fix the issues, then the next thing that you can do is determine the wrong things that you’ve been doing wrong and take action on it. It’s easier as it may seem however it’s possible if both partners will work on it together.
Changing for the better is hard for a lot of people. Needless to say that what you’ve been doing as well as your partner is not working. If you really want everything to change for the better, you must be willing to do things a lot different and this can be scary and hard.
Always be patient to yourself and to your partner. You know that both of you are on the process of changing things and most of the time it’s not always a smooth ride. If in case one messes up, try to be compassionate as much as possible and never beat yourself up because of it.