moving in

This is a guest post submitted by Joe Morris of

As exciting as it is when you and your significant other take the plunge and decide to share a set of keys and a lease, if you aren’t prepared, moving in together can often end in disaster marked by your clothes on the lawn, U-Haul trucks, the end of a relationship and a state of homelessness. So that you don’t question what the heck you were thinking giving your boyfriend or girlfriend the additional title your roommate, be sure to check out the following ways to make the big move a successful one:

1.) Start fresh. When you move into his former bachelor pad or the apartment that she once shared with her jerk of an ex-boyfriend, you run the risk of feeling like the place isn’t truly yours. Starting from scratch and shopping for a new place together will help prevent you from getting in all-out turf wars—and the fresh start will be the perfect opportunity for the two of you to make a home that belongs to both of you.

If you are combining two households, there may be a need to find storage space for rent near your new home. You may not have the room for two of everything. Just remember: compromise is key here!

2.) Share. Ever since we were little we’ve been taught the importance of sharing with others…and this becomes all the more important when you move in with your boyfriend or girlfriend. So that you don’t throw the remote at your new roomie’s head when you are fighting over whether to watch Monday Night Football or The Bachelor, remember the importance of choosing your battles and make an effort to share the TV, your space as well as your feelings—keeping the lines of communication open will prevent you from getting into petty fights that lead to someone sleeping on the pull-out couch.

3.) Talk money. Money is one of the biggest causes of fights between couples who cohabitate. This is why it is imperative that you outline a plan for how the two of you will take care of the financial obligations that come with living together. If the two of you aren’t married, it is recommended that you keep your finances separate. But to make things fair in your living situation, sit down together and come to a mutual agreement on how to handle rent, bills, a budget for groceries and other house-hold expenses that may arise.

4.) Give each other some space. In the beginning, it is exciting to live with your boyfriend or girlfriend and it can be easy to get wrapped up in just each other—you are painting the walls, picking out ‘his’ and ‘hers’ towels and ordering Chinese take-out every night. But once the paint fumes settle and the two of you are spending almost every waking second together, the other person’s bad habits that you once found kind of cute and quirky (like making sure that every light on when no one is home or leaving toothpaste all over the sink) can often annoy you. To make sure that you don’t get sick of each other, set time aside to do your own thing—hang with your friends, let he or she hang with theirs and enjoy the same hobbies that you once loved separately before moving in together.

About the Author:

Joe Morris is a guest post writer who shares with us his tips for a smooth move-in with your significant other. Joe also enjoys writing about dating on the web and provides information about the top online dating services at Best Internet Dating Sites.