Finally have some time on your hands? Just came out of a long relationship? Whatever the reason, you’re looking for a new mate and it’s been a while. You may have gotten a little lazy with your appearance and the clothes that were hip five years ago don’t get you into clubs anymore. You need to recreate yourself and take your dating game to the next level. There are lots of willing ladies out there, and all you need to do is switch things up a little to get their attention. Let’s take a look at some ways to do that.

Building your Confidence

Before getting into the way you look, it is important to know that above everything else, confidence is the key to attracting women. Women don’t want to spend time with men who act like they themselves don’t even think they’re worth anybody’s time. If you don’t have much confidence right now, fake it until you make it. If you watch closely, a lot of confident guys out there don’t have much more to be confident about than you do.

Although real confidence is more believable, before you get to that point, simply act the way a confident person would act, and a lot of that is not caring what other people think of you. Once you do this, you may find that in behaving confidently towards women, you realize it isn’t the end of the world if you say something they don’t agree with or if they shut you down. This realization is what breeds true confidence.

Addressing your Physical Appearance

As any good dating coach will tell you, having a good physical appearance is the first step to getting women to look your way. Before you talk to a woman or have any type of interaction with her, the only thing she can tell of you is your appearance. Now it’s true that looks aren’t everything, but looking decent definitely won’t hurt either. Just like in job interviews, you won’t be hired just because you’re dressed immaculately, but they will take note if you walk in with running shoes. Part of looking good is dressing appropriately for the occasion.

If you’re going to a club, don’t wear a diamond studded suit or an Iron Maiden shirt. It’s good to stand out a little, but try to keep it within the extreme sides of the spectrum. Keep clean, put on deodorant, get a decent haircut, and shave. If you’re one of those guys that look good with facial hair, make sure you trim it, and be very sure it’s not only your roommate and guys from the local hipster tea shop that say you look good with it; get more opinions from the opposite sex.

Personality: More Important than you Think

While the phrase “nice guys finish last” can be true sometimes, it doesn’t mean you should make yourself difficult to get along with. You can still be an easy person to talk to without being a doormat, catering to the every need of women, which is what the “nice” guy does. Surround yourself with positive guys with some guts and women will be more than happy to be around you. One of the best ways of meeting women is through friends, and being cool and straightforward with people can get you much better results than being a mean and antisocial person.

If you’re looking for some additional help with your romantic life, check out dating coach Jay Cataldo, a renowned expert in personal confidence and inner self development. Thanks for reading!