online datingYou’ve heard the old saying, “There’s plenty of fish in the sea.” Well, that has certainly never been more true than it is in this modern age. Thanks to the internet, singles everywhere have more opportunities than ever before to find that special someone. There are literally hundreds of dating sites which allow you to create and customize a profile and to chat and send messages with others looking for love and fun.

However, just as meeting the right people “in real life” takes some work, you have to put a bit of effort into your online dating profile. Without the right profile, you could send all the wrong messages and meet all the wrong people or, worse yet, go unnoticed in the virtual sea of singles.

Elements of a Killer Profile

Remember, first and foremost, that the point of your profile, no matter which dating site you use, is to showcase who you are, what makes you special, and what you’re looking for. Don’t try to be something you’re not. People either won’t fall for it, or they’ll be disappointed when they find out the truth. This, of course, doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t put your best foot forward.

Make your profile positive and upbeat. Talk about things that you like to do, your interests, and what you are looking for in a partner. Make sure that you include a clear, attractive picture or two. Also, if the dating site you choose gives you the opportunity to fill out questionnaires or take tests to help you find matches, make sure you take advantage!

Safety First

Keep in mind, as you make your profile, that anything you put on the web is visible to just about anyone. If you wouldn’t want your boss or your co-worker to see something, don’t put it on your profile! Worrying about your boss or friends seeing your profile is one thing, but having potentially dangerous people see it is another thing altogether.

Therefore, make sure you don’t include any information that would enable an unsavory individual to find or harm you. Steer clear of using last names (this will also make it less likely that someone you know in real life would find you), and avoid risqué pictures. Also, leave out any detailed contact information like your telephone number, workplace, or home address. If you want to stay even more on the safe side, make up an email account only for use with the site.

Avoid Common Dating Site No-Nos

We all have things about ourselves we’d like to change. Maybe you’d like a smaller waistline or a straighter nose. However, don’t resort to lying or half-lying about who you are or what you look like. This will only hurt you in the end and stunt the possibility of forming any real and meaningful relationships from the site. Most people don’t outright lie—they simply compromise the truth by posting half-truths or adding in outdated pictures from when they had more hair or fewer lines on their faces.

Show confidence in yourself—there’s nothing sexier! Also make sure that you don’t ramble on and on—too much talk is boring and makes people more likely to skip over you ad. However, too little is forgettable, so you have to find that fine line of revealing just enough to be interesting, but not so much that you look desperate or attention-seeking.

This article was written by Karl Stockton for the team at