Our review
★★★★☆ 3.9
HER is the largest dating and community app for queer women and nonbinary people, blending matching with event listings and a social feed. That community layer is its moat — many users are there for friends and scene as much as dates. Moderation of couples-seeking-thirds and inactive profiles remains the recurring gripe.
Pros
- Largest queer-women community
- Events and social layer
- Broad identity options
Cons
- Unicorn-hunter profiles persist
- Feed can eclipse dating
- Premium gates useful filters
From our blog
- Why Intentional Dating Is Replacing The “See Where It Goes” Era — April 9, 2026
- How Esther Perel Became a Global Relationship Thought Leader — April 6, 2026
- The Relationship Science of Dr Helen Fisher — April 3, 2026
- How Esther Perel Talks About Infidelity and Trust — April 1, 2026
- The Relationship Advice Philosophy of Esther Perel on Desire — March 23, 2026
- How Dr Helen Fisher Studies the Biology of Love — March 23, 2026